February and March Articles

Hi again folks! Offline life has been a bit overwhelming lately, but I’m happy to say I’ve been keeping up with regular contributions to xojane. I appreciate the community there and I’ve gotten to discuss a variety of issues and experiences in my recent articles.

In case you missed any of my recent pieces, here they are:

Recent Article Round-up

In the last several weeks, my focus has shifted from writing fiction to writing nonfiction. I still plan on writing some speculative romance stories this year, but when xojane gave me the opportunity to write for them more often, I couldn’t say no! This month I also wrote my first article for Elite Daily, which gives me an opportunity to write specifically for a LGBTQ+ audience with their Queer Culture section.

Without further ado, here are my recent articles:

“I’m Sorry, I’m the Worst”: What to Do When Your Partner (or You!) Gets on the Self-Deprecation Train – xojane. Jan 2016.

Three Things I Wish I’d Done Differently Coming Out as Transgender at Work – Elite Daily. Jan 2016.

In Defense of Labels: Why Self-Identification Matters – xojane. Jan 2016.

How to be a Good Ally to Nonbinary People – xojane. Jan 2016.

Why I Find Comfort in Reading Fictional Tragedy and Horror – xojane. Jan 2016.

In an Alternate Reality, I’m a Straight Girl – xojane. Dec 2015.

2015 Accomplishments

2015 was my first year writing professionally, outside of a few assignments at office jobs. While I didn’t meet all of my (admittedly lofty) personal goals, I far exceeded others, and I’m happy to say as I enter 2016 that overall, 2015 was hugely successful for me.

In this first year, I saw the release of my first novelette, two poems, and half a dozen articles on xojane. I also had two other romance stories, an rpg setting, and another poem all accepted for publication. I finished National Novel Writing Month for the second time ever, and the first time ever with something that will, after some revising, be worth submitting for publication.

This was all on top of some key accomplishments in my personal life, including getting both of the gender-confirming surgeries I needed and settling into a new office job.

Sometimes I get down on myself and feel like I’m never creating enough, never writing enough, never getting enough published. At the start of a new year, however, I’m taking a step back to look at my accomplishments. I wrote a lot, and I’m proud of it.

I still have a long way to go. I want to continue to improve both the quality and quantity of my writing, and really start treating it as a career, not just a hobby. I’m still refining my style and figuring out what I’m most passionate about writing – and what I’m most skilled at writing.

In 2016, I’m going to continue to write a combination of fiction, nonfiction, and poetry. I will be revising and submitting both my NaNoWriMo project and a lesbian superhero novella that I’ve been working on. While my fiction writing will remain centered on queer romance, I may dabble with some shorter pieces in other genres I enjoy, especially horror.

I want to thank everyone who has supported me, both personally and professionally. This includes (but certainly isn’t limited to): Lesley at xojane; Mike and Sean at Evil Hat; the team at Less Than Three Press; and my friends and my partner, Q. Thank you too to everyone who has bought, read, reviewed, or commented on my work; I couldn’t do this without you!

Finally, none of this would have been possible without my best friend, platonic life partner, and taking-no-excuses editor, Jack. He has been supportive of me for years, and has tirelessly reviewed and revised nearly every piece I’ve submitted for publication. My work wouldn’t be the same without his input, and I can’t thank him enough.

I look forward to bringing you more of my work this year! Stay tuned!

More on xojane: Polyamory

I’m pleased to say that I will be writing more for xojane in the coming months. I’ve had a great experience writing for the site so far, and I look forward to doing so much more in 2016.

This week, my article is on Three Ways Polyamory Has Helped Me Have Healthier Relationships. For me, polyamory has been an excellent learning experience. It helped me re-evaluate my relationship ideals and recognize the importance of communication, boundaries, and compromise. These skills will serve me well in the future, regardless of if I’m in a monogamous or a polyamorous relationship.

Getting on Testosterone Changed My Life for the Better

This week on xojane, I talked about my experience with getting on testosterone. After previous articles on my surgeries, pronouns, and crying, I realized the next logical topic was my hormones. While not all nonbinary people choose to get on hormones, for me it was a vital part of my transition. Not everything about them is great (I didn’t know I could grow hair so many places!) but overall testosterone has made me a happier, healthier, and stronger person.

Release Day: Rule of Three

Rule of Three cover

Today my debut novella, Rule of Three, was released by Less Than Three Press. I’m very excited; this is the culmination of nearly a year of hard work from me, my editor, and my publisher.

In December 2014, I was sitting at the bus station talking to a friend about my idea for a novella with two rival magicians, one of whom summons an incubus in a misguided attempt to impress the other. These events would, of course, lead to a steamy threeway. Now, in November 2015, you can finally read the final version of that story.

If you didn’t preorder the novella, pick it up today! Either way, consider leaving a review on Amazon or Goodreads to help other readers decide if it’d be a novella they’d enjoy.

Thanks for reading, and I’ll have more fiction and nonfiction for all of you in the coming months.

Bluestockings Boutique Photoshoot

I’m first and foremost an author, but occasionally life grants me other opportunities. Sometimes it’s difficult to go outside my comfort zone, but I want to push myself when it’s something important to me, such as queer visibility.

A couple of weeks ago, I had a unique opportunity to participate in a photoshoot for Bluestockings Boutique, an online LGBTQIA+ lingerie and underthings boutique. Jeanna, the amazing founder and owner of Bluestockings, put out a call for models over the summer and I responded. I honestly wasn’t sure what exactly she was looking for (besides “LGBTQIA models”), or if I’d fit in with the group, but I wanted to give it a try.

I’m so glad I took the chance and replied because not only did it work out for me to participate, but it was an amazing experience!

One of the pairs of underwear Jeanna had me wear matched my tattoo, completely by accident!
One of the pairs of boxers matched my tattoo, completely by accident!

As I communicated with Jeanna in the weeks leading up to the shoot, I did some thinking about why I wanted to participate. After all, I’m a writer, not a model. In my writing, I purposefully include a wide variety of queer characters, including those who are nonbinary, transgender, bisexual, gay, lesbian, asexual-spectrum, or some combination of the above.

However, representation is important enough to me that I wasn’t content to let this opportunity pass me by. I really love the idea of a queer lingerie boutique. As a nonbinary person, I feel uncomfortable shopping for men’s and women’s underwear alike, frustrated by the severe gender binary of both the products and the marketing. I want to increase positive nonbinary visibility, and being a part of this photoshoot was a great way to do that.

Perhaps the most compelling reason that I wanted to participate was more personal. As many of you know, I had both top surgery and middle surgery this summer. Getting my breasts and internal reproductive organs removed was a vital step towards being happier with my body and confirming my nonbinary gender. However, we still live in a society with a lot of narrow beauty standards that glorify and sexualize breasts, while scars are viewed as unappealing, if not downright ugly. I still struggle with some of these messages, since I internalized many societal beauty standards while being raised as a girl. As such, being part of the photoshoot was a little bit scary for me, but I wanted my nonbinary self to be visible through this photoshoot, scars and all.

The scars from my middle surgery showed up, subtly, in the pictures.
The scars from my middle surgery showed up, subtly, in the pictures.

The Bluestockings Boutique photoshoot was one of the most body-positive and gender-affirming experiences I’ve had in my life. It was so freeing to have everyone use the correct pronouns for me even though most people there were near-strangers to me. The models were diverse: all part of the LGBTQIA community, two other models on the trans or nonbinary spectrum, and two out of the six people of color. Everyone was kind, friendly, and supportive. It really felt like hanging out with a bunch of friends while we happened to be in our underwear.

I don’t have plans to continue modeling, but I feel lucky to have had this opportunity with Bluestockings. I had a great time, made new friends, contributed to nonbinary visibility, and helped out an LGBTQIA+ business. If you’re in the market for underwear, regardless of your gender or orientation, I hope you’ll look into Bluestockings Boutique. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable shopping for underwear, not just those who fall into binary, cisnormative standards of beauty.

Group shot of all six LGBTQIA models from the photoshoot
The wonderful group of Bluestockings Boutique models!