Testosterone has changed a lot of things about me, both mental and physical, but perhaps one of the biggest changes was losing the ability to cry. I used to cry very easily but after being on testosterone for a while, I essentially lost the ability to cry. This shift made me realize how toxic cultural attitudes around crying are, and how a propensity for crying is usually hormonal, not a choice.
With these experiences in mind, I wrote In Defense of Crying for xojane. In the article, I discuss what it was like being a person who cried all the time, and how my life has changed now that I don’t cry much. I also explore some of the messages we receive about crying and talk about how these messages can be misleading if not toxic.